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Bored? - 5 Places to Find That Freaky Friend

02/14/2008

Listen, not everyone is looking for the traditional releationship. If you've been rejected by eHarmony, or are looking for something more than the "long walks on the beach" and "romantic candlelit dinners" the girls on Match.com want, that's perfectly ok. (I'm not judging.) Fortunately for you, there are some places online where the term "dating" has a broader meaning. And strays far from the conventional.

Places where you can find that special someone to, say, tie you down to the bed and smack you with a ceiling fan blade. While dressed as Marge Simpson. Places where you can create a virtual version of yourself to have virtual sex with an endless number of virtual women.

So, if your tastes tend to lean toward something a little different, here are five places you may want to surf over to. Purely for informational purposes.

Utherverse.com / RedLightCenter.com
Think of Utherverse.com as the result of a bunch of swingers taking over MySpace. You can search "friends" by sexual orientation, gender (which runs more than just male and female here), age and location. And popularity and sexiness too. Members can set up personal pages (a la MySpace), with likes, dislikes, turn ons, photos (worth a look), and what they are looking for. In explicit terms. You can also collect friends and send messages and comments.

RedLightCenter is their sister site where you can create an avatar and experience a world of fantasies you'd find in Amsterdam�s Red Light District - without the legal repercussions. There's virtual nightclubs, hotels, bars, movie theaters and stores. Where you can have a lot of virtual sex.

Both are free, with paid upgrades.

AshleyMadison.com
If you watch daytime talk shows, you may have heard of this highly controversial site. It's controversial because it's a site where married people can discretely meet other married people. To have sex with. Discretely. Not so discretely, their marketing tag line is "Life Is Short... Have an Affair."

I know, you're shocked and horrified. But the really shocking thing is the site boasts over 1.7 million members. That's a lot of bored housewives.

AshleyMad is free to join and search. Not surprisingly, most pics are "private only", until you are sent a "key", if someone is interested enough in you. And you'll have to buy "credits" to be able to contact other members.

LoveVoodoo.com
LoveVoodoo is a dating site by swingers for swingers. You'll find people into a wide variety of "preferences" here, looking for mostly short term casual relationships. You can search by just about anything, and small "voodoo doll" icons in the person's profile, let you know at a glance their sex and sexual preferences.

There's video, voice and text chat, a blog area, and local LoveVoodoo events they throw around the country, so you can meet other members in person. And of course have sex with them.

AdultFriendFinder.com
The granddaddy of them all, AFF was possibly the first, and is now the largest, place to find freaky friends online. With millions of members and over 100,000 people online at any given time, by sheer numbers alone you're likely to find exactly what you're looking for here.

Joining is free.

CraigsList.com
I know, I know. CL is the place to list old couches for sale and to find a job at a local newspaper. But there's also a huge community of people who use it for dating. And "alternative" dating. Check out the women looking for "misc romance" and "casual encounters" in your local area. Once you dig through the obvious porn ads disguised as personals.

Free as always.

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AC wrote:

As a former female member of AFF I can say 2 things:

1. Joining may be free, but to do anything you need to fork over some cash. As a woman you may be able to get away with this since there are FAR more men there and chances are they have paid and will just send you an outside contact. But hell if you'll be able to see their pics.

2. As a straight female...it's a friggen gold mine. For a straight male...Good friggen luck! I guarantee that you will be fed up with the fakes, pros, and window shoppers after about a month.

02/14/2008 12:49 PM

Cary wrote:

AshleyMadison is 1.5 million men and 200,000 Cougars. I'll take my chances @ the grocery store on Wed. afternoon.

02/15/2008 07:23 AM

katie oneil wrote:

http://www.online4love.com is the primary way my husband and I meet likeminded "friends with benefits." There's no uncomfortable wondering if you ought to approach someone, you already know upfront when you meet them, and it is definitely worth the extra cost of becoming silver/gold imo, so you can exchange notes or pics before meeting and make sure its a good fit.

My hubby is str8 and I am bi and we have had no problem finding partners on online4love.com. We've had fun sex with lots of single men, single women and full swap couples that we met on O4L. And yes, I'm real, and no, I don't work for O4L or think they're perfect (they can be pricey and they goober up email sometimes,) but I think they're the best thing going by far for meeting other people who just want to have sex without strings!

For those complaining about the cost�ok, I agree, but I think you get what you pay for. I pretty much don't write people unless I can see what they look like and all, not because I'm shallow or a snob but because I want to know THEY'RE for real too and don't trust blank profiles...can you blame me? Also, it can be risky to contact people to swing with! Are they my boss? My brother? Twice my age? You get my drift. I�d like to know who I�m initiating a conversation with! The extra cost put into a good profile helps narrow down those you want to meet. How long do you pause on a profile that does not show a picture? (Faces can always be �smudged� until you know each other better to avoid embarrassing compromises.) And, although we are admittedly "just after recreational sex", part of having fun is that we have to LIKE our bedpartners too, so we look for things like a sense of humor and easygoing fun nature and a �click�. (And more expensive memberships include more matching criteria and stuff, too to help the odds of getting that �click� without too much searching.) So I guess I'm saying that if you don't cough up the extra cash for a full membership, don't expect overwhelming responses. There are lots of people who post their pictures and info, so when looking for people it's easy to breeze by the ones that don't. We may miss out on meeting some great people because of it...but we meet lots of great people too.

I agree there�s a high ratio of men to women, but I don�t know why that surprises anyone. Seems expected to me�although many women love sex, there do seem to be a lot more guys that are ok with swinging or casual sex than girls, for whatever reasons, and that�s not specific to O4L.

I definitely vote that it is worth the time and the money! We've had many a fun night of frolic thanks to connections we made on O4L. :)

03/14/2008 07:05 AM

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