[Meet Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. He'll be writing about a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences for us. He recently compiled a book with over 177 Free Pick Up Artist Openers... These are some of the best opening lines for starting conversations with women. I suggest you grab a copy.]

Romantic comedies don't get much right in terms of being a realistic view inside the dating world. For instance, the nice guy very rarely gets the girl. And an intense romantic gesture like holding up a boom box outside of a chick's window and blasting a song like "In Your Eyes" is more likely to creep her out then win her over.

But the one thing romantic comedies have really nailed down is the subtle art of bantering. Most guys just don't understand the concept of bantering, and never really master it.

This is a shame, because bantering with a woman really is the surest way to create attraction, amp up the sexual tension, and ultimately makes it a whole lot easier going in for the kiss.

Bantering is that playful back and forth teasing between a guy and a girl. On the surface it seems light and innocent... but the both of you understand that there is a much deeper sexual communication going on. (Think Bruce Willis in "Moonlighting".)

It is sort of like you're "messing" with her. You're treating her the same way you would the girl you secretly had a crush on in the third grade. Back then you never professed your love to a girl. You just teased her relentlessly on the playground.

Think of bars and clubs as a playground. Girls go out to bars to "play."

She doesn't want talk about your boring job. She doesn't want to get into an intellectual conversation about health care. And she couldn't care less how well your stock portfolio is doing.

She wants to have fun.

And she's following your lead. This means whatever "tone" you set for the conversation she is likely to follow. Knowing this, why would you ever set a boring, stodgy, un-sexual tone?

Within minutes of talking to a girl you should be taking it to a fun and flirty level. How do you do that you ask?

Bantering.

If bantering sounds a little immature... It is. If it sounds a little cocky. It's meant to. Remember, this is an entirely different form of communication. But any girl worth talking to will understand that you're flirting. And the fun ones will dish it right back to you.

Examples of Bantering:

Here are some examples of banter lines that will communicate to a woman that you're one of the few men in the bar who understands the nature of sexual communication.

:: If you're talking to a girl and she is talking a little too fast or telling a story that doesn't make much sense, just look at her quizzically and say "Did you forget to take your medication today?"

:: Or look at one of her friends, sort of twirl your finger around your ear making the crazy signal, and say "Is she always like this?"

:: If a girl starts to get playful back and makes fun of you a bit, say "I don't know who your boyfriend is, but he's obviously not spanking you enough."

:: If you've been talking to a girl for a little bit you can say "You're like my little sister, loveable but annoying"

:: If you're talking to her and you find out something positive about her like she is massage therapist or that she loves football, say "You're my new girlfriend... wait, can you cook?"

:: If the girl says something nerdy, say "You usually hang out in the library don't you?" Or say "You are SUCH a dork."

:: Throughout the entire conversation you can bring out her playful side by saying things like "You are trouble... I can sense it."

:: If you get into a tiny argument or disagree over something say, "You know, we would fight all of the time... and I'd win."

Are you starting to get a feel for it?

Next time you're casually chatting up a girl in bar, turn to her and say "This place is SUCH a meat market. I hate how the girls look at me here. It's like I'm on piece of meat."

You'll thank me later.

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