[Meet Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. He'll be writing about a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences for us. He recently compiled a book with over 177 Free Pick Up Artist Openers... These are some of the best opening lines for starting conversations with women. I suggest you grab a copy.]
You done messed up, didn't you?
You saw romantic ski trips and candle light dinners. You had visions of spooning with her naked on the couch. Ferris wheels, and canoodling on the boardwalk, lazy Sundays together, and gulp, introducing her to your parents...
Didn't quite turn out that way, huh?
You waited a bit too long... and somehow you ended up in the "friend zone".
And now you're like her reliable little puppy dog. Waiting patiently for one of those asshole guys in her life to break her heart just bad enough that she finally wakes up and realizes that you're the one she wanted all along.
Sorry bud... It doesn't quite happen that way.
Unless you do something quick, you're not only going to lose any chance of scoring with her... you're also going to lose that last sliver of your dignity.
So how to you get out of the "Friend Zone?"
I'm glad you asked. But you're going to have to bear with me because my answer is going to twist your tiny little brain around a bit. Here goes...
Start acting like her god damn FRIEND. Yes, you heard me right. From here on out, you are to treat her just like you would a friend.
I can hear you saying, "But Bobby... isn't that what got me here in the first place? Isn't that what I'm trying to avoid?"
Yea, I know, it's pretty damn counter-intuitive. But let me explain.
When you are in the "Friend Zone", you are NOT friends with a girl. When you're in the "Friend Zone" the entire relationship revolves around the fact that you are hopelessly in love with her... and she's too nice to completely blow you off, so she keeps you around knowing that you'll do favors for her, boost her ego, and act as her therapist when the asshole she's dating screws her over one more time.
Does that sound
Here is another startling, mind blowing fact for you: Women fuck their friends.
Yes, all the time. Hell, the entire show "Friends" was based around a bunch of girls who couldn't keep their hands off of their guy friends. And that's pretty much how reality is.
I've had a lot of female friends. And I've slept with most of them at some time or other. In fact, at certain points in my life it felt like my entire social circle was a giant orgy.
Take a brief look back over your life. Back in high school... the cool popular guys were always friends with the cool popular girls... But they fucked. And the girls at your jobs, they were always sleeping with your co-workers... who they were also friends with?
Am I wrong?
So how does this work? It works when you actually become friends with a girl.
This means treating her like one of the guys. It means busting her balls and bantering
with her like you do with your guy friends. It means talking about other chicks to her just like you would your guy friends. It means laughing in her face and telling her to take a cab when she asks you for a ride to the airport at three in the morning...
You don't kiss your guy friends asses. You don't take their shit. And you certainly don't worry about pissing them off or hurting their feelings.
You are friends.
You call them out when they're acting like a dick. And you don't hide your faults or walk on eggshells around them.
Before you can ever begin building sexual attraction with a girl... she needs to see you as her equal. Before she can ever see you as a potential lover, she has to first respect you as a man.
Can I guarantee that making friends with her will get you in her pants?
But I can guarantee that it will get you out of the "Friend Zone."
You'll thank me later.
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