[Bobby Rio is one of the founders of TSB. He writes about a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences for us. He recently compiled a book with over 177 Free Pick Up Artist Openers... These are some of the best opening lines for starting conversations with women. I suggest you grab a copy.]
Something has happened over the past twenty years and it has to do with the amount of masculinity and power men feel comfortable displaying to women. (Personally I blame it on the 80s.)
Men have gradually become less and less manly. And they are slowly handing over all of their power to women.
While the women enjoyed it at first (even encouraged it), they are now beginning to find it more and more difficult to feel attraction toward these “beta” males.
Here are some tips to display your “alpha” side and keep the power around women.
1. Lead Her.
Women have something I refer to as “Make up my mind for me syndrome.”
Most men will call a woman for a date and say “Do you want to go out?” “Where do you feel like going”, “What do you feel like eating?”, “What time should I pick you up?”
Try this instead:
“I’m hungry. Come over to my house. And we’ll head over to The Barnyard for a burger and some beers. Wear something cute.”
2. Be More Aggressive Sexually.
Do not wait for permission to get sexual with a woman. She won’t give it to you. And she’ll look down at you for being so timid and “beta.”
Remember, she has “make up my mind for me syndrome” and she wants you to take control and lead her.
Most women (excluding certain S&M freaks) want a man who is dominant in the bedroom, and will allow her to surrender to her desires. And even if she turns down your advances, she will respect you a whole lot more for trying.
3. Do Manly Shit in Front of Her.
At heart, all women are still girls.
They get impressed with men who are strong, in control, and who are able to keep their composure under pressure.
This means if you get a flat tire… you fix the damn flat tire. You don’t bitch about it. You don’t complain. You don’t worry about getting your hands dirty or ruining your new pair of pants. You fix the flat tire like a man.
When women see men playing out these manly roles they turn into giggly little school girls and they look at you like the cool older guy they had a crush on.
4. Don’t Be Too Available.
Part of her attraction towards you is her desire to “domesticate” you.
But the odd thing is, once she gets you to stop hanging out with your friends, playing in your band, working on your Chevy in the garage… she’ll suddenly miss the guy she fell in love with.
Women love the challenge of domesticating a man. The same way a cat loves the challenge of chasing a string.
But what happens when the cat gets the string? It gets bored and moves on.
5. Don’t Take Her Shit.
Women will consistently give men little “shit tests.”
These tests are her gauge to see how much she can get away with you.
How late can she show up? How many times can she text message her friend during dinner? How rude can she be?
Many men accept this bad behavior thinking it will make the women see him as “nice” or “understanding.”
But women don’t want “nice” and “understanding” men… they want a guy who has the balls to put her in her place when she acts up.
A woman knows that she can be emotionally irrational, and she needs you take control and set her straight.
Trust me, all of this advice might seem counter-intuitive to what you’ve been told, or what your mother taught you about women… but it works. You’ll thank me later.
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